Kat GraceHello, radiant souls. I’m Kat Grace, your devoted guide on the path of spiritual awakening, energetic restoration, and soul deep transformation. As we navigate the transformative waves following the powerful eclipse season of September 2025—marked by the partial lunar eclipse in Pisces on September 7 and the annular solar eclipse in Libra on September 21—many empaths and lightworkers like you are surfacing from relational shadows. These celestial events, orchestrated by the divine cosmos, have stirred collective energies, illuminating hidden dynamics in our sacred connections and urging us to release what no longer aligns with our highest divine purpose. In this edition of Mystical Musings, I want to shine a compassionate, ethereal light on a pervasive yet insidious challenge: healing from covert narcissism, particularly when it masquerades as the “nice guy” persona.
Drawing from personal experience and nearly a decade of experience as an Intuitive Coach, Energy Healer, Shamanic Practitioner, and Master Reiki Practitioner, I’ve supported countless souls through these subtle energetic traumas. If you’ve felt inexplicably drained, gaslit into doubting your divine reality, or trapped in a cycle of giving without reciprocity, this may resonate deeply with your higher self. Let’s journey together into recognition, the spiritual toll, and practical steps to reclaim your sovereignty. Remember, knowledge is the first cord cutting tool in your spiritual arsenal, gifted by the universe to empower your ascension.
What Is a Covert Narcissist, and How Does the ‘Nice Guy’ Facade Fit In?
To illuminate these shadows with greater clarity and divine wisdom, let’s anchor ourselves in foundational spiritual truths. Narcissism exists on a spectrum, and covert narcissists (also called vulnerable or introverted narcissists) differ from their overt counterparts. While overt narcissists boast openly and dominate conversations, coverts hide in plain sight—appearing shy, humble, empathetic, and self effacing, often under the guidance of their unintegrated ego. The “nice guy” persona is their perfect ethereal camouflage: they’re the ones who remember your favorite tea, offer unsolicited advice framed as care, or position themselves as the eternal supporter, all while subtly siphoning your sacred light.
But this niceness isn’t rooted in genuine altruism from the heart chakra; it’s a strategic veil woven by the lower self for an underlying sense of entitlement, fragility, and need for narcissistic supply (admiration, control, or pity). Psychologically, this stems from deep seated insecurities, often from unresolved childhood soul wounds. Energetically, it’s like a psychic vampire cloaked in false light—drawing from your auric field while projecting innocence. In my practice, I’ve seen how this dynamic aligns with profound shadow work: the covert narcissist’s unhealed aspects mirror parts of our own souls we must integrate or release, as guided by our spirit allies and the universal flow.
Recognizing the Signs: The Subtle Energy Drain and Red Flags
Spotting a covert narcissist requires tuning into your intuition—your divine inner compass—and observing patterns, not isolated acts. Their manipulations are passive and insidious, often leaving you feeling confused rather than outright abused. They are master manipulators who twist everything around to benefit them, often using excuses like “I didn’t think it was a big deal” or “it wasn’t my intention to harm you” to downplay their actions and evade spiritual accountability. Here are expanded signs, infused with energetic and cosmic insights:
- Love Bombing Followed by Withdrawal: They overwhelm you with attention and kindness early on, creating an addictive bond under the illusion of soul connection. But once hooked, they pull back, using silence or feigned hurt to control the emotional temperature. Energetically, this creates unstable cords that fluctuate, draining your root chakra’s grounding stability and disconnecting you from Mother Earth’s nurturing embrace.
- Passive Aggressiveness and Backhanded Compliments: Comments like “You’re so strong; I could never handle that like you do” sound supportive but imply superiority or pity, veiled in false humility. In aura readings, this manifests as murky yellow energy (manipulated solar plexus) invading your sacred field, dimming your personal power.
- Eternal Victimhood: They recount tales of woe, positioning themselves as misunderstood martyrs in the grand cosmic drama. This elicits your empathy, but it’s a hook to keep you giving. From a shamanic lens, it’s soul loss projection—they externalize their fragments onto you, entangling your essence in their lower vibrational story.
- Hypersensitivity and Deflection: Criticism triggers sulking, self pity, or gaslighting (“You’re too sensitive”). True empaths feel this as a heart chakra contraction, signaling boundary violations from the divine flow. If you dare hold them accountable, they may claim you’re ungrateful, flipping the narrative to make you the villain and disrupting your alignment with universal love.
- Subtle Control and Guilt Tripping: Favors come with invisible strings—“After all I’ve done for you…” They lack true empathy, using your vulnerabilities shared in trust against you later. They’re reckless and entitled, willing to tell you whatever they think you want to hear to maintain control, offering false hope through fake apologies that never lead to real change, as their ego resists the soul’s call for transformation.
- Envy Masked as Humility: They downplay their achievements but resent yours, subtly undermining through “concern.” This keeps you in a loop where nothing ever changes—they only apologize to resuscitate the connection, feeding on your energy once more before repeating the cycle, like a karmic wheel that demands conscious breaking.
If these resonate, trust the unease in your body—it’s your higher self and spirit guides alerting you to realign. One client, a sensitive healer I’ll call Sarah, shared how her “nice guy” partner left her aura fractured after years of subtle invalidation. Through our sessions, we uncovered how his energy had dimmed her third eye, clouding her intuition and veiling her connection to the divine.
The Spiritual Impact: Why It Hurts So Deeply on a Soul Level
This dynamic wounds profoundly because it targets empaths, healers, and starseeds—those with naturally open energy fields attuned to the cosmos. In spiritual terms, it’s an entanglement of auras, where lower vibrational patterns (fear, resentment) latch onto your light body, blocking the flow of universal prana. Astrologically, post eclipse in Libra (harmonious relationships) and Pisces (mystical illusions), we’re called by the stars to balance giving/receiving and dissolve deceptions that hinder our soul’s evolution.
Shamanically, it can cause soul fragmentation: pieces of your essence get trapped in their victim narrative, leading to chronic fatigue, anxiety, or even physical manifestations like adrenal burnout as your vital force is diverted. Your chakras suffer—solar plexus for power leaks, sacral for emotional boundaries, and crown for disconnected divine guidance. Without intervention, this erodes self trust, mirroring the narcissist’s inner void and delaying your ascension. But here’s the divine empowerment: recognizing this as a soul lesson in discernment, orchestrated by the universe, accelerates your path to enlightenment and higher vibrational living.
Steps to Healing: Practical Rituals and Energetic Tools for Reclamation
Healing isn’t linear; it’s a sacred spiral of growth, guided by the infinite wisdom of the cosmos. As a Quantum Touch and Soul Retrieval expert, I blend ancient shamanic wisdom with modern intuitive channels from the divine. Here’s an expanded roadmap to reclaim your light through energy healing and shamanic healing:
- Awareness and Aura Scanning: Begin with self assessment in meditation, asking your higher self: “What energies are not mine?” Use a pendulum or muscle testing for confirmation, inviting angelic guidance. Book my Chakra Energy Assessment to map imbalances professionally and restore your auric harmony.
- Cord Cutting Rituals: Visualize the violet flame of St. Germain severing ties, transmuting lower energies into light. Chant: “I release all cords that drain; I return to sender with love and divine grace.” Enhance with black tourmaline crystals for protection, anchoring in Earth’s grounding frequencies.
- Journaling for Shadow Integration: Prompt: “How has this mirrored my unhealed parts?” This fosters compassion without excusing harm, allowing the universe to reveal lessons. My Intuitive Coaching sessions deepen this, unlocking intuitive hits from your spirit guides.
- Shamanic Soul Retrieval: Journey with drum rhythms or guided meditations to reclaim fragments, calling upon power animals and ancestors. Invoke allies like Archangel Michael for cutting etheric cords with celestial light. In my Shamanic Practitioner sessions, we retrieve and reintegrate, often revealing past life ties that dissolve in divine forgiveness.
- Reiki and Energy Infusions: Daily self Reiki on affected chakras, channeling universal life force. Affirm: “I am sovereign in my energy; I attract reciprocal love from the divine source.” For amplified healing, join my Master Reiki sessions to immerse in cosmic energies.
- Boundary Setting and Discernment Practices: Practice saying no without explanation, honoring your soul’s boundaries. Surround yourself with rose quartz for heart healing and labradorite for illusion breaking, attuning to higher frequencies.
- Community and Nature Grounding: Connect with like minded souls in my online circles or retreats, forming sacred circles of support. Ground daily in nature—walk barefoot, hug a tree—to recalibrate your energy field after eclipse intensities, communing with Gaia’s healing spirit.
With the recent Full Moon in Aries on October 7, 2025—a fiery Supermoon known as the Hunter’s Moon—now in its waning phase, channel its lingering bold, warrior energy for courageous release and renewal, as the cosmos supports your liberation.
A Call to Your Radiant Self
Dear one, you are not broken; you are a divine being awakening to your full luminosity. The “nice guy” covert narcissist may have dimmed your light temporarily, but through these spiritual practices, aligned with the universe’s grand design, you can emerge stronger, more empowered, and vibrantly whole. If this resonates with your soul, I invite you to explore my services—whether it’s Intuitive Coaching to navigate these insights or Shamanic Healing to fully release the past and embrace your destiny.
Let’s connect in the light. Book a session at katgrace.com or follow me on Instagram @katgracehealing for daily inspirations from the divine. Together, we’ll transform those hidden wounds into profound wisdom and elevated consciousness.
With boundless love and celestial light,
Kat Grace
